You got a friend in me
You got a friend in me
Place: Balmoral Forest, Canterbury, South Island, New Zealand
In their two years of living together at
home in England, Matthew and Cameron had a typically stormy relationship
for young brothers. Moments of brief playfulness and intimacy
were punctuated by endless rows, jealousy and sometimes full on
domestic assault. Matthew's favoured method of intimidation was
to put his nose millimetres away from Cameron's and scream into
his face, "It's MINE" "Get off" or "Say sorry now". This was generally
rewarded with a head butt. They argued about everything; which
video to watch, who should get the first bath, which of them would
take Buzz Lightyear to bed. Knowing such innocent issues could
trigger a toddler bloodbath, we wondered how their relationship
would fare on the road where their only constant playmate would
be each other.
Being thrown together in foreign playgrounds
brought the first small change in their attitudes to each other.
Matthew appointed himself as Cameron's personal bodyguard, chasing
off anyone who dared invade his brother's territory; hauling Cameron
onto adult sized trampolines, encouraging him down steep slides,
lifting him on to the zip wire and giving him a push on the swing.
Together they have stormed every playground and climbed every
ladder. As their friendship has grown Cameron has started to reward
his brother's attentions by pushing Matthew on the swing. "Just
a small push to get started please Cameron."
Recently they've started calling each
other 'brother.' When Cameron is upset, sometimes the only one
who can help is big "brudder." When there's nothing we can do
to soothe him, Matthew acts as mediator, "Cameron, it's me, your
brother Matthew." He grips his sibling in a bear hug. "Tell me
what's the matter brother?" Cameron's wailing subsides and he
spills out his complaints for big brother to deal with. "Brudder,
Mummy upset me. She put my trousers on," he wimpers to Matthew,
his anger calming.
Their latest joint project is learning
a song together on their new leap- pad computer. "It's from Toy
Story brother, I'll teach you the words." Matthew patiently goes
over each new phrase with Cameron and at the end of each rendition
Cam cheers "Hooray. Again." Over and over they sing it together,
got a friend in me You got a friend in me
You got your troubles and I got mine too
There isn't anything I wouldn't do for you
If we stick together we can see it through
Because, you got a friend in me."
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Not just brothers but new found friends.
Until the next time "brudder" wants to get his hands on Buzz Lightyear.
Armed and dangerous but best of friends